“Jagdish Khattar, Maruti MD, is in Los Angeles with his IPO roadshow. Top guns from the platinum chip Capital Fund are listening to him. They have tough questions - profit projection, margins, new plans, new technology, hard numbers…There's a guy in the corner whom Khattar ignores. He asks no questions, just listens.
Khattar shows the group a picture of a family - father, mother, and two children - on a two-wheeler. It's raining & they are looking longingly at a small car with a happy couple in it. “That's India” says Khattar, “& this is why we have a future.” The silent guy now speaks up: “What makes you so passionate?” “That's how I am,” comes the answer. “Who is your role model,” he asks. “It's personal, sir,” answers Khattar. “Never mind, who is it?” “My father,” says the Maruti MD. “He always said, 'Work hard & leave the rest to God'.” “What advise do you have for your children?” ”I try to give them advice, but you know what it's like Sir, they also have their own ideas.” Khattar sends a slip to ask who this person was. It comes back, “He is God. The chairman of Capital.” God put his money into Maruti.
What we have here is the emergence of a new kind of business leader who is able to take on the world not only by the strength of his balance sheet, Ivy league B-school degree or Armani suit, but his strong values. Some call it Level 5 Management, which focuses on soft skills like leadership style, relationships, parenting skills. Others call it the non balance sheet characteristics.”
This is an extract from a news item published in a leading newspaper The Times of India.
One often hears silly statements made by many of us, i.e., “I'm not good enough… my English is bad”,
“You can't get ahead in life unless you know the right people”, “Approach chahiye koi ghusne he nahin deta”,
“I'm too fat and ugly”, “My teacher is out to get me”, so on and so forth, the list is never ending.
What are these statements, these are nothing but perceptions or paradigms. A paradigm is the way you see something or your point of view, a reference or a belief wherein we are convinced that what is being said is true and then we search for evidence to support our belief.
We often tend to base our lives on these paradigms, these perceptions about ourselves, about other people and about life in general.
These perceptions play a great role in our lives as our personality is structured on these paradigms. These could be inherited by birth or we acquire these as a result of our experience in life.
Self-esteem is your perception or paradigm of how you feel about yourself. Look at yourself, break free from these shells of inhibitions detrimental to your growth - enhance your sense of worth. This is what you must begin to share with others because this is the factor, which is going to determine your successes & failures. Remember, it is this thought that will allow growth in your conviction, competence & willingness to accept responsibility. You will face life with optimism, have better relationships & in turn live a meaningful and fulfilling life.
Let us do a self-evaluation, which side of the fence are we on, given below are two columns decide which column fits you most…
A
· Interest in gossip
· Always critical often an obstructionist
· Living on a bloated ego, always arrogant and rude so that no one ruptures that false pride
· Believe that “I know it all”
· Self centered and not open to other's point of view
· Evade responsibility
· Cave in to peer pressure
B
· Motivated - Goal driven
· Honest - trust yourself
· Life, a positive experience
· Do not play the blame game
· Happy at the success of others
· You are not overly concerned about being popular
· You can stand up for yourself and resist peer pressure
Now that we are aware of the symptoms lets see what we can do fix people ourselves
Keep those promises to yourself
Do small acts of kindness compliment others
Be gentle with yourself be strong emotionally and physically
Be honest, honesty creates positivity within
Review and then renew yourself
Tap your talents do not copy others
Try these, you will surely bring out the latent you.
"I am always doing things I can't do that's how I get to do them" - PABLO PICASSO
